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thirty things to stop doing to yourself: as maria robinson once said, “nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” nothing could be closer to the truth. but before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. here are some ideas to get you started:

stop spending time with the wrong people. – life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. if someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. you shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. and remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

stop running from your problems. – face them head on. no, it won’t be easy. there is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. we aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. that’s not how we’re made. in fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. this is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

stop lying to yourself. – you can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. yes, help others; but help yourself too. if there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

stop trying to be someone you’re not. – one of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. don’t change so people will like you. be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

stop trying to hold onto the past. – you can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

stop being scared to make a mistake. – doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. you end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – we may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. we all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. but you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

stop trying to buy happiness. – many of the things we desire are expensive. but the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – if you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. you have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

stop being idle. – don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. evaluate situations and take decisive action. you cannot change what you refuse to confront. making progress involves risk. period! you can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

stop thinking you’re not ready. – nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – relationships must be chosen wisely. it’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. there’s no need to rush. if something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – in life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. but most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

stop trying to compete against everyone else. – don’t worry about what others doing better than you. concentrate on beating your own records every day. success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

stop being jealous of others. – jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. ask yourself this: “what’s something i have that everyone wants?”

stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. you may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. but reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. you’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. so smile! let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

stop holding grudges. – don’t live your life with hate in your heart. you will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. forgiveness is not saying, “what you did to me is okay.” it is saying, “i’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! and remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. if you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

stop letting others bring you down to their level. – refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. just do what you know in your heart is right.

stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – the time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. if you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. the best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

stop trying to make things perfect. – the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.

stop following the path of least resistance. – life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. don’t take the easy way out. do something extraordinary.

stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – it’s okay to fall apart for a little while. you don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. you shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. the sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

stop blaming others for your troubles. – the extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. when you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

stop trying to be everything to everyone. – doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. but making one person smile CAN change the world. maybe not the whole world, but their world. so narrow your focus.

stop worrying so much. – worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. one way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “will this matter in one year’s time? three years? five years?” if not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – focus on what you do want to happen. positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. if you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

stop being ungrateful. – no matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

"You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:46:56 -0500

“You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.”

"2. Break Up With the Ex, For Good. That ex. The one that, if you’re being really honest, still..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:45:11 -0500

““2. Break Up With the Ex, For Good.
That ex. The one that, if you’re being really honest, still manages to have an inexplicable hold on you. The one who’ll text you out of the blue and throw your whole life in disarray. The one that you’ve been trying (unsuccessfully) to be “just friends” with for years. The one who you inevitably end up talking about to anyone who will listen, even though it’s been a long time now. You aren’t dating. You shouldn’t waste so much mental energy on that person, and you know it. Break up for good, and move on with your life.””

- 5 Dating Resolutions All Women Should Make in 2012

"Something that became clear while warming myself with the possibility of this time next week. And..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:44:44 -0500

“Something that became clear while warming myself with the possibility of this time next week. And releasing the ghosts of the past who want to remind me that I don’t deserve it. I’m thinking, “why are you even in my head you insignificant figment of a past I’d rather not revisit.” So I created a mantra. I created a prayer. I created a salah. I created a reason to thank God for this moving forward. For this over it. For this good bye that I wasn’t ready for until right now.
Out of nowhere, you realize and must admit that you are better off without it, him, her, them, that, it.
Everything. Every single thing that’s not bringing you joy or moving you forward or helping you grow or encouraging you to fly or saving you from yourself or building their own pyramids right along with you.
At some point, you have to say good bye. And the truth of the matter is that you don’t even have to say it. You just do it. No apologies. No excuses. No guilt.
You take care of you before you take care of others. You makes sure you’re okay before you extend yourself. You shut down the shit that keeps you stagnant or feeling poisoned.
Leave it. Leave her. Leave them. Leave it. Leave that. Leave this. Just leave.
Seriously. Just leave.
Make it that simple. Save the drama for something worthy of the production.
Save yourself for someone worthy of the production. ”

"It’s easy to run to others. It’s so hard to stand on one’s own record. You can fake virtue for an..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:43:56 -0500

““It’s easy to run to others. It’s so hard to stand on one’s own record. You can fake virtue for an audience. You can’t fake it in your own eyes. Your ego is your strictest judge. They run from it. They spend their lives running. It’s easier to donate a few thousand to charity and think oneself noble than to base self-respect on personal standards of personal achievement. It’s simple to seek substitutes for competence, such easy substitutes: love, charm, kindness, charity. But there is no substitute for competence.””

- Ayn Rand

"For most of us, there is only the unattended Moment, the moment in and out of time, The distraction..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:42:54 -0500

““For most of us, there is only the unattended
Moment, the moment in and out of time,
The distraction fit, lost in a shaft of sunlight,
The wild thyme unseen, or the winter lightning
Or the waterfall, or music heard so deeply
That it is not heard at all, but you are the music
While the music lasts.””

- T. S. Eliot, from “The Dry Salvages” in The Four Quartets

"They miss the whisper that runs any day in your mind, ‘Who are you really, wanderer?’ and the answer..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:42:33 -0500

““They miss the whisper that runs
any day in your mind,
‘Who are you really, wanderer?’
and the answer you have to give
no matter how dark and cold
the world around you is:
‘Maybe I’m a king.’””

- William Stafford, from “A Story That Could Be True”

"Some people think love is the end of the road, and if you’re lucky enough to find it, you stay..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:41:59 -0500

““Some people think love is the end of the road, and if you’re lucky enough to find it, you stay there. Other people say it just becomes a cliff you drive off, but most people who’ve been around awhile know it’s just a thing that changes day by day, and depending on how much you fight for it, you get it, or you hold on to it, or you lose it, but sometimes it’s never even there in the first place.””

"It took me a while to see that it is not a good idea to spend time with men who make you dislike..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:41:48 -0500

“It took me a while to see that it is not a good idea to spend time with men who make you dislike other women, or make you forget your own plans, whether it’s the train you meant to catch or the career you want to have. I learned that sometimes being nervous around someone is thrilling but sometimes it keeps you from being your full, best self, the way you are in the company of friends. I also realized that break-ups are the kind of mistake it’s okay to cop to, that my dad was right when he told me that heartbreak is a disease 99.999 percent of people survive, except for in Tolstoy.”

"I pick you up in my Kia Sorento, you get in. There’s candles in the car. You go… “Is that..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:41:34 -0500

“I pick you up in my Kia Sorento, you get in. There’s candles in the car. You go… “Is that dangerous?” I go, “Yes, but I like danger.” We go to your favorite restaurant. We have a fantastic meal. We come outside and we see my car is on fire. You go, “Aziz, your car is on fire. Aren’t you upset?” I pull out a bag of marshmallows and I go, “No, I knew this was going to happen.” And then I kiss you in front of my burning car.”

- Aziz Ansari describing his perfect date in his Sexiest Man Alive interview for People Magazine

"…most of us would rather love than be loved. Almost everyone wants to be the lover. And the curt..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:40:55 -0500

“…most of us would rather love than be loved. Almost everyone wants to be the lover. And the curt truth is that, in a deep secret way, the state of being beloved is intolerable to many. The beloved fears and hates the lover, and with the best of reasons. For the lover is forever trying to strip bare his beloved. The lover craves any possible relation with the beloved, even if this experience can cause him only pain.”

"Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be..."

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:40:36 -0500

““Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, it’s unlikely you will step up and take responsibility for making it so. If you assume that there’s no hope, you guarantee that there will be no hope. If you assume that there is an instinct for freedom, there are opportunities to change things, there’s a chance you may contribute to making a better world. The choice is yours.””

- Noam Chomsky

nedhepburn: People who hate on Lana Del Rey for being sexy need...

Tue, 06 Dec 2011 15:23:23 -0500

nedhepburn:

People who hate on Lana Del Rey for being sexy need to take a good long look in the mirror, preferably a mirror with Lana Del Rey in it, because she is much more attractive than them and probably a better singer, too.

"Got tight on absinthe last night. Did knife tricks."

Wed, 30 Nov 2011 17:16:25 -0500

“Got tight on absinthe last night. Did knife tricks.”

- Ernest Hemingway

absea: “My concept of death for a long time was to come down...

Fri, 18 Nov 2011 06:13:15 -0500

absea:

“My concept of death for a long time was to come down that mountain road at 120 and just keep going straight right there, burst out through the barrier and hang out above all that…and there I’d be, sitting in the front seat, stark naked, with a case of whiskey next to me and a case of dynamite in the trunk…honking the horn, and the lights on, and just sit there in space for an instant, a human bomb, and fall down into that mess of steel mills. It’d be a tremendous goddamn explosion. No pain. No one would get hurt. I’m pretty sure, unless they’ve changed the highway, that launching place is still there. As soon as I get home, I ought to take the drive just to check it out.”

- Hunter S. Thompson, St. Petersburg Times (February 22, 2005)

"Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you..."

Mon, 14 Nov 2011 13:31:03 -0500

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”

- LOUIS DE BERNIÉRES CAPTAIN CORELLI’S MANDOLIN

"You love the girl who makes you laugh and shows you porn and drinks wine with you. You don’t..."

Mon, 14 Nov 2011 06:42:16 -0500

“You love the girl who makes you laugh and shows you porn and drinks wine with you. You don’t love the crazy, sullen bitch.”

- ― John Green, Looking for Alaska

where is this dress from?? want.

Sun, 13 Nov 2011 13:55:25 -0500

where is this dress from?? want.

Yelping with Cormac: Jamba Juice

Tue, 08 Nov 2011 15:01:58 -0500

Yelping with Cormac: Jamba Juice:

yelpingwithcormac:

Financial District - San Francisco, CA

Cormac M. | Author | Lost in the chaparral, NM

Three stars.

I’ll have another, he said.

The clerk wiped down the counter and would not look at him. We’re not supposed to give customers more than three guarana boosts, he said.

I aint askin.

The clerk…